middle cyclones and other references
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Fruit Bats - When U Love Somebody
I think one of you must have put this on a mix that I downloaded at some point because I was able to put it on...
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Heartwarming Tearjerker of the Day: Scott Widak has Down syndrome and is terminally ill with liver disease, and he loves to receive mail. So his...
Procrastination Theatre: February 15, 2012
You know, I know I wasn’t supposed to like this movie. But I did. I personally loved it, by which I mean I know it wasn’t necessarily a skilled or well-executed movie, but it touched certain particular chords that I as an emotional and nostalgic person love. Those chords are:
- I have always wished that I was the sort of person who has large messy groups of friends and makes poor, passionate decisions that hurt afterwards. I am not. I will never have that life-long dysfunctional irreplaceable love affair with someone because I am way too practical and I immediately cut ties upon ever losing trust in someone and also I have the Boyfriend and we are stable, not all romantically distraught. But I love watching it and I love fantasizing that I am the kind of person who would let a relationship bleed me dry in gloriously messy fashion.
- There is something wonderful about the enclosed, empty setting of this movie: even though there’s a wedding on in this New England-y upper-class lake house estate, it feels like the only people there are this one group of friends, who colonize and traipse all over its classical architecture and lawn in a truly charming fashion. It feels like a dream sometimes, like when you dream about one solitary house on a lawn and how entering it always feels like a painting.
- It has a good soundtrack about dysfunctional relationships that I like to listen to and imagine having a dysfunctional relationship to. Including The Zombies and someone called Lorene Scafaria?
- It contains an important plot point that revolves around Keats’ “Ode to a Nightingale”, which reminds me of Mia and our erstwhile fictional love affair.
- It has a reasonably accurate account of what really goes on inside those tight, claustrophic, twin-like female relationships, where you are inseparable and know each other better than anyone else but that knowledge is also a prison of resentment, an ongoing power struggle. I had one of those all through high school. I am not sure which one I was. I always felt like she was the one who got everything, who was wanted and exciting and desired, but I also feel that I might have been the infuriatingly well-behaved perfect one.
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If he and she do not know each other, and feel confident
they will not meet again; if he avoids affectionate words;
if she has grown insensible skin under skin; if they desire
only the tribute of another’s cry; if they employ each other
as revenge on old lovers or families of entitlement and steel—
then there will be no betrayals, no letters returned unread,
no frenzy, no hurled words of permanent humiliation,
no trembling days, no vomit at midnight, no repeated
apparition of a body floating face-down at the pond’s edge
“Husbands and wives should have separate interests, cultivate different sets of friends and not impose on the other. You can’t spend a lifetime breathing down each other’s necks. We are very, very different people and yet somehow we fed off those varied differences and instead of separating us, it has made the whole bond a lot stronger.” - Paul Newman
Recent years have seen an explosion of male joblessness and a steep decline in men’s life prospects that have disrupted the “romantic market” in ways that narrow a marriage-minded woman’s options: increasingly, her choice is between deadbeats (whose numbers are rising) and playboys (whose power is growing). But this strange state of affairs also presents an opportunity: as the economy evolves, it’s time to embrace new ideas about romance and family—and to acknowledge the end of “traditional” marriage as society’s highest ideal.
Read the rest of Katie Bolick’s cover story and check out the November issue of The Atlantic here.
Procrastination Theatre: July 9, 2011
This is an excellent movie, which I bought in April and finally watched this Saturday based on a long-ago recommendation by yrfriendliz quite long ago as having one of the best sex scene/music combos in film.
And she’s right. And it’s also a very interesting movie about intimacy without falling into a lot of the movies-about-intimacy traps. Instead, it’s just sort of sad and dear. Aaron Eckhart is really just such an excellent actor that it amazes me he was used to such little effect in The Dark Knight (which sucked, like all Batman movies.) And I swear, the Boyfriend spent the whole movie professing his intense attraction for Helena Bonham Carter’s wide-set eyes. And I felt more than a little sad afterwards.
Also, yes. I have dropped off the face of the earth and probably will not return until the evening of July 28th, when I have written the MCAT and will be drunk out of my miiiiiind.
We sometimes encounter people, even perfect strangers, who begin to interest us at first sight, somehow suddenly, all at once, before a word has been spoken.
- Fyodor Dostoevsky
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(via specificitycity:hibana) The hedgehog’s dilemma, or sometimes the porcupine dilemma, is an analogy about the challenges of human intimacy. It describes a situation in which a group of hedgehogs all seek to become close to one another in order to share their heat during cold weather. However, once accomplished, they cannot avoid hurting one another with their sharp quills. They must step away from one another. Though they all share the intention of a close reciprocal relationship, this may not occur for reasons which they cannot avoid. ー Wiki: Hedgehog’s dilemma
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This is probably the best thing ever. Torrey, you will dig this.
“Baby, you’re missing that plane.”
